Do you feel lonely, or are you surrounded by so many people but still feel like no one understands you?
Do you think that nothing can make you happy and that you will never find your true purpose in life?
Think again. I used to feel the exact same way a few years ago, and do you want to know what has changed? I stopped feeling but started to act instead.
I was in a toxic relationship, thinking I was really happy. I used to surround myself with negative people, not knowing that they were the main reason I felt exhausted and lost.
I felt lost in life, but not only because of my actions, but also because of others.
In the universe, the most powerful force are our thoughts.
So, whenever you feel lost in life, you have the power to change it.
If you redirect your thoughts and focus on the things you can control instead of the things you cannot, you will realize that you are never lost, but that you were finding yourself again.
“It is only when we are lost, we begin to understand each other.” – Henry David Thoreau
You can’t find yourself until you get lost. You can’t get strong until you face challenges. You cannot understand yourself until you come into contact with your real self.
I was lost. I didn’t know how to start feeling better, what to do, and where to go. I was fighting severe anxiety.
I was in a toxic relationship and struggled to finish my studies. At one point in my life, I felt so exhausted and lost.
I desperately wanted to be the person I should be. I felt like half of me was missing, and I had to struggle hard to find that half.
In the process of finding happiness and my missing half, I got lost. And that’s when I started to think about all the things I had done and the things I should have done.
I realized that my main focus was on worrying about things that I don’t have or worrying about things that might happen.
The biggest problem was that I wasn’t living in the present, and that’s how I got lost.
Slowly, I began to realize that I had the power to make a difference in my life. Feeling lost is no excuse for stagnating in life.
I realized that if I want to change things, I first have to fall in love with myself and focus on all those things that I can control instead of worrying about the ones that I can’t.
By focusing on my life process and my goals, I learned to live in the moment. If you let your mind wander, you will start to feel lost because you won’t know if you are in the past, present, or future.
Once you realize that you have the ability to redirect your thoughts, you will find yourself. You will also find that:
You are the only creator of your own happiness!
No, your partner, your job, or anything else can’t really make you happy. Remember, the only person in the world who can make you happy is YOU.
You are the only creator of your own happiness, and once you realize it, you will find yourself. It will all start making sense to you.
We have this innate desire to wait until the universe is always in our favor even if we are not in The Hunger Games (lovers of this dystopian trilogy will understand me).
Whenever we feel sad, we tend to blame that specific thing for it, and we even get angry for feeling that.
We believe that feeling happy is the only good mental state for human beings, and that all other negative feelings and emotions shouldn’t exist.
Guess what: you are the sole creator of your own happiness, and everything happens for a reason. Whatever happens to you in life, you have the power to live it the way you want.
You may feel sad about a given situation, or you may choose to believe that there is a valid reason why it happened to you.
You can choose to dwell on the past, thinking about the what ifs, or you can choose to face your feelings, do what you can about it, and find the courage to accept the things you cannot change.
You can choose to continue to feel lost, or you can find yourself. Only you can make yourself happy because only you know exactly what you want and need.
The Most Important Self-Care Method is Getting Rid of Toxicity
When someone mentions the word toxic, what comes to their mind? Can you only imagine toxic people who make you feel exhausted all the time?
Yes, you’re right, but it’s not just them that you need to pay attention to.
There are also some toxic things you should stop doing because you are harming yourself. One of the main reasons people feel lost is that they stop taking care of themselves.
They focus on other things in life like satisfying everyone (only to live in harmony), achieving goals for the wrong reason (only to feel worthy), etc.
All of these things and more are toxic to your well-being, and if left untreated they can make you feel lost every day of your life. If you want to find yourself, you have to stop doing things that are toxic to you.
Most of the time, we are not even aware that we are doing these things because we have been doing them for so long that they have been a part of our lives.
If you want to find yourself, you have to stop trying to please everyone
I used to do the same. The easiest way to get lost is to play by other people’s rules instead of creating your own.
Stop worrying about what others will think of you and stop asking for their approval.
You are worthy. You have your own dreams and goals to focus on, so why would you waste your time thinking about what that person thinks of you?
There are 7.6 billion people in the world, and if each of them tried to please others, we could never evolve.
We would just go around in circles. So, stop going around in circles and focus on yourself. Think about what YOU want to do because they make you happy instead of doing things just to make others happy.
If you want to find yourself, don’t be afraid of change
Life is full of choices, constant change, inevitable consequences and ups and downs. Finding yourself isn’t about realizing who you are and never bothering to question your own existence and prospects.
Finding yourself is constantly evolving and accepting every change in your life, whether good or bad. It’s about challenging yourself, learning lessons the hard way and motivating yourself to do better.
To find oneself is to seek constant improvement.
You don’t just wake up one day and realize you’ve finally found yourself and you don’t have to worry about it anymore.
Every day of your life you will learn new things about yourself, but only if you are actively involved in your life.
If you only observe the changes and walk through life in a passive and safe manner, you will never be in touch with your true self. If you continue to be satisfied with mediocrity, you will never be able to improve.
If you want to find yourself, don’t be afraid of getting lost
If you want to find yourself, accept life with all its challenges, its ups and downs, both happy and less happy times. The world is your shell!
You can achieve anything you want in life and you can go anywhere you want if you want to.
You can get lost a hundred times and find yourself a million times only if you want to. So the question is: do you want it?