The other day I was sitting with some of my male friends and I asked them the ultimate question: “What bothers them the most about girls?”
I wasn’t talking about their dealbreakers because they’re all different – I was talking about the things that bother them about the women they love and are dating.
And, they all agreed on one thing: they hate naggy girls. This is how they classify girls who point out their flaws and denounce them on their actions.
Before we delve into it any further, let’s clear one thing up: I know the love stories of each of these guys and I know exactly which ex they’re talking about.
They are not talking about possessively jealous girls. They are not talking about the women who saw them as insufficient or the women who kept putting them down.
Instead, it was the girls who did their best to turn my friends into better men. The girls who invested their time, energy and nerves in guys who never deserved them.
It was the women who fought for their men. Women who have done everything in their power to make their relationships work, one way or another.
Let’s be clear: none of these relationships were idyllic. There were a lot of arguments, but one thing was certain: each of these women loved my boyfriends wholeheartedly.
But each of these stories had a similar outcome. Sooner or later all these girls got tired.
They threw my friends away, walked away from them, and never came back.
All of these guys ended up being heartbroken once they realized what they had lost, but of course now they’re all pretending something like that never happened.
Nonetheless, these things do happen. This is actually a fairly typical scenario.
A guy meets a girl. They fall in love, but the second he sees he is under her skin, he shows his true colors.
He begins to take her for granted, thinking there is nothing he can do to make her give up. He’s so convinced that this girl is here to stay that he makes no effort to keep her by his side.
At the same time, the girl is the only one fighting for this relationship. To make things work, she goes out of her way.
She forgives him all the bullshit he puts her through.
Why? Because she loves him and because she sees something in him – she sees the hope that one day this man will be happy for her forever.
The telenovela continues for years. She moves mountains for him when he doesn’t want to move a finger for her.
And then, after all those second chances, she understands everything. She finally understands: he is not worthy, never was and never will be.
She wasted years of her life on a guy who would never give her what she needs is realized by her. After doing all she can, she realizes that everything was in vain.
This girl sees the truth and breaks this relationship which is one-sided. Yes, she has tried to do it before, but this time it’s different.
This time, it’s not an empty threat. This time, she abandons him because she realizes that he is no longer worth it.
There are no more arguments, no more cries, no more ultimatums, no more begging, no more pursuit… There is only silence left.
Well, that’s when every man is fucked up. It is a sign that he has reached the point of no return.
And that’s exactly what happened to most of my male friends. So if you are like that, be different and change your destiny in time.
If you have a girl arguing with you, it means that she still has the strength to fight for you.
This means that you should consider yourself lucky because when she stops trying, you will want all the reviews and criticism to come back. You will wish his love would return.