Whether you dream of a boyfriend or girlfriend or miss your family and friends, you can learn to enjoy being alone. Keep in mind that if humans are social animals, that does not mean that we cannot be perfectly happy outside of society.
It’s yours. Don’t get angry when your friends are busy and you have no one to hang out with. I learned to enjoy my time alone and I ended up loving it.
1. Learn to embrace being alone
Loneliness is a time of reflection, of deeper reflection. In a world increasingly focused on speed and competitiveness, loneliness is precious and something to cherish.
- Being comfortable alone is a sign of good self-esteem.
2. Think and explore your mind
When no one else is around, you have time to think about things you didn’t even know you cared about. Exploring your inner self is a rewarding activity that will clarify everything for you: you can put your ideas in order, think about how you want your life to be, realize how much you love someone and even find out just how much you are incredibly deep! Become the philosopher of your own world.
3. Reflect on life and bigger meanings of the world
Some of the time you spend alone can be spent thinking. Take the time to be introspective and think about your life. Consider your past, present and future goals.
- Above all, observation is one of the most important self-building things you can do. Think about what makes you. What do you believe in? Why? Are there things that don’t seem right to you? What do you believe at face value (or do you accept it as a matter of faith)?
4. Go outside for a walk
You don’t know how good it is to walk before you start to do it. You don’t have to have a place to go, get out of your house and start walking. If you live in the countryside, congratulations, you can enjoy the sound of birds, contemplate nature and breathe this fresh air. If you live in a big city, don’t worry, there are always green areas where you can spend your time, and if you can’t find any, you can just walk the streets paying attention to the citizens.
5. Avoid over-analyzing things
It is easy to read the experiences, feelings, thoughts, and attitudes of others and to make judgments that are really based only on your own naive perception. It can quickly become a negative activity and cause you to fall. Be aware that you may not have all the facts and that is fine.
Some people don’t realize how beautiful reading is. In addition, if you read alone, nobody will interrupt this amazing chapter where your favorite character discovers the truth about his parents and you can live the story without any distraction.
7. Being alone allows you to do the weirdest things without anybody asking you for an explanation.
It’s time to play some relaxing music and try your best yoga positions, even if you have no idea! You are alone … You can try anything you want. In fact, it is not the strangest thing to do. You can just lie in bed and scream and do whatever you want to do because no one will think you are crazy – well, maybe the neighbors will do it … but whatever -. Just learn to have fun doing the things you are afraid to do in public.
8. Write a story, journal, or blog to express your feelings
Writing not only increases your imagination but it also makes you happy, which increases your confidence. You can also write poetry or do research.
9. Listen to music that makes you feel good
No matter what type of music you like, you can enjoy being alone when you listen to a good song. Choose the music you like or music that brings back memories of certain events.
- Listening to natural sounds like thunder and rain, chirping birds, flowing rivers and many more sounds helps clear your mind. It helps you relax and unwind, leaving you happier and calmer when you are alone.
10. Get a pet if you are dedicated to caring for it
Pets provide affection and a person to talk to and care for. If you are distant and independent, tropical fish, hamsters, parakeets or finches are excellent choices. If you like a little interaction, but not much maintenance, try a cat. If you want to be very practical and spend tons of time with your pet, a dog might be right for you.
- Don’t be fooled into thinking that a smaller animal like a rabbit or a bird will not need much care – a rabbit needs daily human contact and several hours to run for about a day, without talk about cleaning it up. Do thorough research on any animal you are considering as a pet, then head to your local animal shelter, there are hundreds of cute animals just waiting for a home!
- Some animal shelters will allow you to “feed” a pet, which gives the animal a much-needed break from the confines of the shelter and gives you the company you want without a long-term commitment.