Being locked up together in the house means couples need to find creative and intentional ways to spend quality time with each other. Whether it’s game night, movie night, or something more romantic, nurturing your relationship and cultivating meaningful connections, especially in the midst of a global crisis, is essential.
Michelle Herzog, a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist at the Center for Mindful Living in Chicago, says spending intentional time with your partner is important to the health of your relationship.
“It’s especially important right now because we can go all day without logging in,” Herzog said. “It’s also a time when people really suffer a lot of losses. If you have a partner on hand, it’s such a great time to say, ‘Can you just sit down with me’ or ‘Can we talk? ” is built and maintained. ”
If you want to prioritize a date at home, all distractions should be put away, Herzog said, such as no TV or phone. Herzog also emphasized the effort.
“The dates are not going to come, they have to be planned,” she said. “It’s important that couples take turns and really put in the effort: set the mood, order the food, take the game, sign up for the class, whatever it is. Make the effort as you would outside your home. ”
Connection can happen at any stage of your relationship – married, newly dating, long distance, and everything in between. Since physical connection is not an option for some couples at the moment, the focus should be on deepening your emotional intimacy.
Julie Spira, a cyber dating expert, tells couples who have long-distance relationships to “always end your calls and chats by saying, ‘I love you.’ We can never say it enough, especially when you feel isolated and alone ”. Said Spira.
Below are some romantic night out ideas and relationship advice – tailored to your relationship situation – if you’re feeling stumped on ways to go online while in quarantine.
To visit. “I love the idea of traveling the world without a passport,” Spira said. “There are thousands of museums with virtual tours, and you can take turns choosing which city or country you want to visit.”
Special dinner. “If your date night includes cocktails and dinner, send yourself a food delivery so you can dine from the same menu,” Spira said. “Remember to light candles and dress like you’re on a date.”
Plan for future dates. Make a list of all the dates and places to visit together after the stay-at-home order is complete, Herzog said. “Talk about the dates and places that you are passionate about and want to go to and show off. It helps to get to know each other. ”
Keep it light. Play fun online games, like bingo or shared puzzles, suggested Spira. She also suggested watching frenzy shows together on streaming services like the Netflix Party extension on Google Chrome.
Engage the desire to travel. “Plan a trip that you would like to take together thoroughly,” Herzog said. Talk about what excites you, go through all the details, and set an itinerary – don’t book your tickets just yet, she said. “It will give you and your partner something to look forward to after this is all over.”
Reminisce. “Go over old photos of yourself together on a video call and share memories of good times,” Herzog said. “Take this opportunity to increase emotional intimacy when you cannot be physically together.”
Prepare a meal. Pick a recipe online and cook a meal together if you’re in the same time zone, Herzog suggested.
Strong Friday. It’s as easy as it sounds – until you actually try to stop the thing from giving way, but that’s part of the fun! Grab chairs, old blankets and start rearranging those sofas to create a strong interior. Place a few more blankets on the floor for cushioning purposes. Pick up a few board games and favorite snacks, or pop in a movie to watch from your new temporary little home.
Indoor camping. Very similar to building a fort, but here you already have some material. Set up this tent in the living room or the basement and microwave some are more! Later, immerse yourself in a hot bubble bath together.
Quarantine club. Every now and then, musicians and DJs will take to Instagram Live and give tens of thousands of people hours of free music. On your favorite artist’s next set – one of the most popular has been the recurring sets from DJ DNice, which he actually dubbed “Club Quarantine” – turn off the lights, turn the speaker on and even pop a few bottles to get that real nightclub feel.
Go outside. Picnic in the courtyard. Sync your work-from-home calendars for lunch at the same time. Take a small meal to take out outside, whether it’s to a nearby picnic table or in your own backyard.
Be active. “If you like to ride a bike and the weather is fine, there are bike lanes you and your partner can ride on,” said Spira. “If you prefer cardio, go for a run with your partner. If you’ve decided to pick up your order at a local restaurant, take a walk together to pick up your order. “