OMG, she is so sexy and smart and beautiful. She would never notice me even if my photo was stuck on her forehead (wait, that doesn’t even make sense, but okay.) Maybe I should just say a simple hello …
Hmm, maybe playing hard isn’t a bad idea after all. But what if she doesn’t like playing games? Maybe women like simple men. There’s no way I’ll ever move with this girl if I keep complicating things.
If you’ve been in this situation before, raise your hand. (And I thought so.) I bet millions of men experience such thinking on a daily basis (especially those who are shy by nature).
Before I write anything, I have a question for you: what do you think of a girl who takes the first step?
Even though I’m a girl myself, I have no problem taking the first step if I really like the guy and notice he’s a bit reserved or shy. I mean, we live in the 21st century where gender stereotypes shouldn’t even exist!
So if you’re a guy lucky enough to meet a girl like me who doesn’t have a problem taking the first step, then congratulations! But, if you’re not, learning how to move a girl the right way is the only way!
How do you know if she wants you to move?
Before deciding to approach a girl and impress her with your skills, it is advisable to first find out if she wants you to move at all.
Girls are complex people. Sometimes they can send you tons of mixed signals and leave you totally confused at the best of times.
We certainly don’t want that to happen. So what should you do to find out if this girl really wants you to approach her?
You need to watch out for these subtle signs that she wants you to move:
- She is accessible, warm and open to you.
- There are a lot of subtle touches.
- She maintains deep eye contact.
If she’s feeling relaxed and has that “happy vibe” around you, that’s a good sign. If she’s a little flirty with her words and general demeanor, know that she cares totally about you.
A girl who doesn’t want you to move will act like this.
It will ignore your texts (most of the time) or invest minimal effort when sending SMS. She certainly won’t be interested in getting to know you better, so she won’t ask you questions.
These are the things you need to pay attention to, so be sure to take note of them. Watch her body language, her texting patterns and all those little things that can say a lot about her intentions, and you’ll be fine.
Getting a girl moving isn’t quantum physics, but you need to learn the basics!
I have this strange feeling that the media likes to make certain topics complex to confuse the readers.
They even go one step further and invent new terms that don’t even exist, to make you feel incapable and dependent on their virtual help.
This article is not about that. It’s not about portraying “taking the first step” as something complicated or “unattainable” to ordinary guys.
From my feminine perspective, I can tell you one thing: getting a girl moving is REALLY very easy.
And if that’s not easy, then she’s not worthy of you approaching her. Yeah, I just said that, and I’m really proud of this new hypothesis of mine.
The truth is, you can be successful in approaching any woman, whether in real life or virtually, and all you need is one thing is TRUST (and an internet connection, of course,). if you choose the latter).
Now what does it mean to be confident? No, that doesn’t mean having a perfect body, a trendy hairstyle, and a six-figure salary. You can be confident even if you’re broke, have a daddy, and no hair at all.
These are just external factors that can help, but are not crucial in attracting women. So you need to focus on the following thing:
What do women find attractive about you?
What is that thing (or things) that women might find attractive about you? What are your hobbies (if you have any), your interests, your personality traits?
What are some things you can give her that would add value to her life? (and I don’t mean just financially).
Like every human being on the planet, your skills and personality traits are unique. There is no other you there. So what you need to do is CONVIN that a girl you love is exactly what she needs in her life.
When it comes to taking the first step, think of it as advertising. You are both the advertiser and the product you want to sell. Basically you are selling yourself (strange as that sounds).
So how do you sell yourself without being too obvious, rude or pushy?
First of all, you have to keep in mind that the main thing that a woman wants in a man is that he is different from others. Do you think you can be that or show him that? I bet you can!