He always sends me a text within a minute. He is caring, caring and affectionate. He literally treats me like his queen. Damn, I think I’m really in love with him.
These were my thoughts a few years ago when I was in a romantic relationship. I couldn’t figure out for a while if I really liked him or imagined I was in love with him, so I made a list of things I like about him.
I must have read the list several times to realize that at the time I obviously had no idea what true love was. I thought it was true love just because of everything he did for me and the way he treated me. I thought I was in love with him just because he made me feel that way.
Now I see that I was never in love with him, but I was in love with how he made me feel when I was with him.
Does it even make sense to you? I hope it does because it makes perfect sense to me. I also think that I am not the only one who has experienced this false love filled with euphoria.
Do you think you are going through the same thing? How do you know if you are really in love with him?
“The course of true love has never been smooth.” – William Shakespeare
I think we have a collective problem regarding the misrepresentation of love, and for that I blame the media. I used to believe that real love looks exactly like the one portrayed in the movies.
It looks something like this:
A man courts a woman. She plays hard to get here and there, he tries harder to win her over, and after that there are a few twists and turns, but nothing serious as their love is stronger than anything in the world.
Then come the scenes where he serves her breakfast in bed and buys her fancy dresses (if he has the money for that, of course), they rarely argue, and the height of their love is dinner parties. romantic with scented candles and soothing music. background.
Funny thing of all is the fact that we ALL fall for it every time. We begin to imagine what it would be like to be in their place; to experience such awe-inspiring love, aka “true love”.
But does this love have anything to do with true love?
I do not think so. Instead of looking for true love in romantic movies, I should have read what William Shakespeare wrote. He wrote that the course of true love never runs smoothly, and I think he himself had no idea how true that was.
No, you’re not really in love with him just because he buys you everything you want, always texts you on time, or responds to all your wishes. These romantic dinners are just an illusion and not a representation of what love really is.
The sage to whom I am sending you once said this: I would never take you on a first date in a restaurant or cafe. These places give you an illusion of how awesome you will feel with this person. Of course, everyone feels good when they eat or drink in a fancy environment.
So, I asked him where he would take me on a date, then.
He said: To nature. Nature is the most realistic setting for couples and those dating. It can tell you a lot about the other person, if they are constantly complaining about heat and other random things, or if they know how to have fun and be themselves. It does not create any illusions and gives you the opportunity to connect in the most intimate way.
I was really impressed with his response and thought about it a lot. Here is what I concluded:
True love is like nature. It’s unpredictable, wild and powerful. You cannot define it or have control over it. You can only feel it, become one with it and enjoy it.
So how do you know you’re really in love with him?
You know you really love someone if you don’t know why.
Remember what I said at the beginning about the list of things I liked about my old boyfriend? The fact that I made a list of things I liked about him is valid proof that I was never really in love with him.
If you “love” your partner just because of the things they do for you and the way they make you feel, then this is one of the telltale signs that it is not true love. As strange as it sounds, you know that you are truly in love with someone if you don’t know why you love them in the first place.
You know everything about them, from their imperfections and weirdest habits to their incredible romantic talents, but you still don’t know why you’re in love with them. This is because love cannot be defined by something the other person does for you.
Love is a constant giving and receiving.
Love argues and compromises.
Love makes mistakes and never repeats them again.
Love is never perfect and never will be (except in the movies). You don’t love someone just because of the things they do for you, but because of who you are and who they are when you’re together.
True love is beyond materialism, pleasure, scented candles and other things. One of the sure signs that you are truly in love with him is the ability to trust him and be yourself with him.
True love is not only about sharing happiness with one another, but it also wipes each other’s tears. True love is the feeling of empowerment when you stand together against the injustices of the world and help each other overcome obstacles.
You know that you are truly in love with him when you feel in his arms like at home. When you look him in the eye and realize that his happiness is a reflection of yours.
You know you really love someone if their happiness is more important to you than yours.
Yes, it’s great to be with someone who will do anything for you and who can make you happy in all aspects of your life. But this is not a measure of true love.
You know you love someone if you don’t care about just your satisfaction and satisfaction anymore. You know you love him when you realize that you are a part of something bigger than yourself.
Yes, it’s nice to be with someone who agrees with you on everything and who nods their head at everything you say. But that’s not real love.
True love isn’t about finding the perfect partner at the right time. It’s about constantly motivating yourself to be stronger, bolder and better. It’s about going through a lot of ups and downs and not giving up hope or giving up believing in the power of your love.
You know you are truly in love with him if selflessness has become your favorite word in your dictionary.
True love works on the principle of two people striving to do their best every day and looking for ways to improve each other and build stronger bonds.
It might sound silly, but yeah, you know you really like him if you let him eat the last piece of the cake because you know it’s his favorite cake. Or, when you can’t fall asleep before saying goodnight or texting him goodnight.
You know you love her if you don’t have a hard time thinking of new ways to remind your partner that you love her.
When trying to figure out if you are truly in love with him, don’t just think about how he makes you feel, but how you make him feel.
Are you doing your best to make him feel loved? Are you only focused on receiving instead of giving?
True love is like nature. He’s unpredictable, wild and powerful, but he still needs a balance to exist.
In nature, everything is interconnected. Each animal and plant has its own purpose. By giving and receiving, they create the necessary balance for themselves and for all the inhabitants of the earth.
The same applies to true love. You can think of it as a plant in which both partners have to make an effort to establish balance and help the plant to thrive.
Of course, the plant (love) will go through bad days when you will think that there is no longer any hope of keeping it.
If you give up, you know it’s not true love.
If you keep fighting for it, you know you really love it.