When we met I was 28 and he was 29. I was already in two relationships and he told me he was having an affair, for a few months it didn’t go beyond holding hands and a few light kisses. I was not a virgin, but he claimed to be. That’s how I found out my boyfriend was a virgin. He told me in advance.
I never asked how she was still a virgin at 29, nor did she ask me for details about my passionate encounters. Let’s make our relationship flourish. The fact that my boyfriend is a virgin but I’m not didn’t have an impact on those early days of heady romance.
I have to say he was a kissing ace and the way he held me when he hugged me turned me on instantly. Seeing her confidence I sometimes had doubts as to whether she was really a virgin or was just telling me a lie. I thought there would be obvious signs that a boy is a virgin, but in his case there didn’t seem to be any. Well, at least as long as our physical intimacy was still in the nascent stage.
I didn’t dwell on this and appreciated the intimacy. But I soon found out she was a virgin – completely, truly.
5 signs that showed my boyfriend was a virgin
A few months after the engagement, after a party, we went to have a coffee in my apartment. I lived in a small apartment alone. Before this, he had never expressed any desire to come to me, but that night he was thrilled and I went with the flow.
This is how I found out my boyfriend was a virgin and also what it meant for our sex life:
1. He was inexperienced
The coffee was made but we didn’t have the patience to sip it. We were all craving. It was absolutely crazy until it was time to go all the way. He couldn’t figure out where he could enter.
One of the most telling signs that a guy is still a virgin is when he doesn’t know how to get around a woman’s body. By that, I don’t mean not knowing the right points and buttons of pleasure, but that he is absolutely clueless as to what goes where.
Since my boyfriend was a virgin before me, it wasn’t a surprise when he struggled to understand the technicalities of intercourse. So, putting my experience to good use, I took the lead and led it.
He was inexperienced
He struggled to understand the technicalities of the relationship
2. He had no control over movement
Men always wonder if girls mind being with a virgin. Well, imagine yourself in a situation where you are burning with desire but instead of a hot, adventurous action, you are getting sudden jabs of thrusts that just don’t go on long enough for you to feel pleasure.
This was also one of the revelations that really brought home the realization that my boyfriend is a virgin. He had no idea how much push was needed to carry out the act. He had no control over the movement and kept slipping out.
It actually took three to four sessions to get it right. But in the end, when he got it right, there was no way to stop him.
3. He wasn’t shy at all but he didn’t know how to unhook
When discussing the pros and cons of being a male virgin, it is often said that men who are virgins are shy in bed. My virgin boyfriend wasn’t shy at all. He didn’t think the lack of sexual experience reflected his ability to please a woman in bed. Which I truly admired.
But that admiration didn’t quite come close to compensating for the fact that she didn’t know how to unfasten my bra. Since my boyfriend was a virgin before me and he hadn’t been with a woman before, he hadn’t even gone to second base, I guess, that was to be expected.
It was somehow new to me to see a guy trying to solve the two hook puzzle, but I didn’t really mind. I would help him break free in those early days, but now he’s a pro.
He did not know how to disengage
It was new to me to see a guy trying to solve the two hook puzzle.
4. He was in pain
It is said that with women the first time sometimes hurts. The hymen may rupture or it may even rupture sooner. So a woman might bleed the first time and she might not bleed too. Bleeding isn’t really a sign of whether she is a virgin or not. But since the transition is still tight due to lack of previous sexual activity, it sometimes hurts the first time around.
I didn’t know that pain and discomfort were also among the signs that a guy is a virgin. My boyfriend went there the first few times too. He was in a bit of pain and was flushed out there. There were also a few drops of blood. But it soon turned out fine when we started making out more often.
5. He had all the theoretical knowledge
Among the pros and cons of being a male virgin, the question arises of his knowledge of sex. While many people would see it as a clear downside that her knowledge is all theoretical, derived from porn and B-level erotic fiction, it can actually turn out to be a huge plus in her favor.
5.He had all the theoretical knowledge
As the days went by, my boyfriend started suggesting different pleasurable sex positions and touching me in places I didn’t know were my erotic zones. I often asked him how did I know so much? He laughed and said he had been reading for years. In the end it gave him immense pleasure to be able to try everything with me.
Now, I often tease him about how I learned he was a virgin. All the classic signs that a guy is still a virgin were too obvious in my boyfriend’s case. He told me he didn’t want to go through with it unless he was absolutely sure of the relationship. I’m glad he felt safe and secure with me about losing his virginity. Especially since the whole “my boyfriend is a virgin but I’m not” situation hasn’t become a hindrance in our relationship.