He stopped texting me after we had sex. Have you ever found yourself saying this sentence?
If the answer is yes, congratulations, because you are one of the millions of women who have found themselves in a similar situation.
It’s not a pleasant scenario and it doesn’t feel good to be here – trust me, I know. Everything went well until you spent the night together. Then, poof, he was out of sight.
In the end, it doesn’t matter whether you fell in love with this man or not. For this cowardly act, all you want is an explanation. You want to know how its wiring works.
Why did he do it? Was everything that happened before sleeping with him a deception? Did he fake the whole relationship just to get you under the sheets?
What should you do next? Will you lose your dignity if you call upon it? Or should your pride be more important than your curiosity?
Well, if the phrase “He stopped texting me after we slept together” doesn’t leave you alone, read on because all of your questions are about to be answered.
Why did he stop talking to me after we had sex?
Every man has his reasons for behaving in this way.
Still, it’s unlikely he was in a plane crash or lost your number – although I’m pretty sure these are the things you’d rather believe.
But let’s be a little more realistic. Here are the possible reasons why a guy ghosted you after spending the night with you.
1. There is no room for improvement
The answer to all of this is not hidden in mystery sometimes. You won’t find it under deep layers of secrets as you hope.
Unfortunately, sometimes the answer is actually the most obvious: he didn’t like what happened last night. Of course, that doesn’t mean you’re ugly in bed.
In fact, there is no one who is good or bad in bed. There are only compatible couples and those who are not.
According to this guy, you are both in the second group. So let’s face it: did you really enjoy sleeping with him? Was the intercourse really mind-blowing?
Before answering this question, do your best to shut down your emotions. Did you feel all those fireworks just because you finally got your hands on a man you were so crazy about?
Let’s talk about the private part here only. Was it really that good? Or are you also aware that you are not a good partner?
Look, don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to justify his move. First of all, that’s no reason to let someone down, let alone stop talking to them without a decent explanation.
Second, he was dead wrong in not knowing that there is always room for improvement. Maybe you were both nervous or just didn’t click right away.
But that doesn’t mean your physical connection wouldn’t change over time. You know what they say: practice makes perfect.
Still, let’s take another possibility into consideration: maybe this guy is embarrassed by his performance last night.
You probably haven’t noticed him (because, again, you’re so crazy about him), but chances are you didn’t like him or let your expectations fall.
In this case, he cannot look you in the eye. His ego is crushed and he thinks to run for his life is the best option in order to forget the awkwardness and discomfort.
2. He made you fall in love with him without intending to catch you
The good old scenario. Or, should I say, the bad old script? Either way, there’s nothing weird about a guy distancing himself after being intimate with a girl.
Unfortunately, almost every woman in the world has found themselves in a situation to say that infamous line: “He stopped texting me after we had sex,” followed by questions: “Did he tell me?” used? Was I nothing but a one-night stand that he forgot the next morning?
In most cases, what is even sadder is that, they are right. There is nothing strange for a man to lose interest after putting on a girl’s pants.
I don’t care about the evolution of our society; men always think that sleeping with a girl and never calling her back makes big studs and gamers.
On the other hand, the girl in question is left in tears, take advantage. After all, to keep her man interested was her job even after being intimate with him.
Sucks, I won’t lie to you. You both had a great time and you don’t regret sleeping with him – this shouldn’t be discussed.
But what hurts you the most is this guy lied all the time just to get into your pants.
Maybe he didn’t like bombing you or promising you the world, but he certainly made you think he was committed to your relationship.
He managed to get under your skin – exactly as expected. And after, what happened?
He got what he wanted, and poof, he turned his back on you and in your life he never reappeared. It’s hard to admit, but he treated you like an object, not like a human being with feelings.
Now, that doesn’t make him a real man. Instead, it means he’s an immature boy with one thing and one thing on his mind.
3. He saw it as a mutual agreement
Although this type of woman is rare, there are girls who do not complain after saying the phrase: “He stopped calling me after sleeping together”.
In fact, they feel relieved because that’s exactly what they also wanted from the start.
Even if you hate modern dating, the truth is that casual affairs and one-night stands have long been normalized.
There is nothing strange about two people on one night hooking up, sleeping together without any promises made, and in the end, going their separate ways.
Not only that: there is nothing wrong either. What’s wrong is if one person is up for this type of deal while the other has a different scenario in mind.
In this case, it is you who dreamed of this relationship. Well, you’d expect at least a call or text from him the next day.
While I don’t intend to justify it, let’s look at it from a different perspective.
Were you clear about your expectations from the start? Have you been honest about catching feelings for this guy?
I do not think so. In fact, I can bet on my life that you have been playing hard to get along all along. To be precise, you have acted quite heartlessly: as if you don’t care about the outcome of this situation.
No, I am not here to judge you. You didn’t because you don’t care.
Instead, you realized that the whole time he was totally indifferent. So, you had a choice: you would admit that you have high hopes for this relationship or you would play the game.
Of course, you could have just left on time, but we all know you didn’t see that as an option. On the other hand, you knew that putting your heart on your sleeve would amount to humiliation.
You didn’t want to boost his ego by showing him that you were falling in love. You didn’t want to start anything serious with a man who clearly sees you only as a random relationship.
At the end of the day, what happened? Did he magically change his point of view after you had sex?
Or did it stay consistent? Well, obviously – the second scenario has taken place.
I hate to tell you, but it’s too late for you to complain now, and it’s in vain too.
Let’s face it – this man thought you both agreed. He was sure you wanted the same, so now he doesn’t think he did anything wrong from a distance.