If you’re one of those guys who’s never had a girlfriend, you probably think you’re the only one. Well, that’s what everyone thinks of when they don’t fit into the conventional sequence: finishing school – getting a job – finding a girlfriend – getting married – having kids.
If everyone around you has a girlfriend except you, it might make you feel ostracized from society and / or disappointed in yourself (assuming you wanted to have a girlfriend, but you still don’t have it for some reason).
Truth be told, some men can act like they don’t really care that they’ve never had a girlfriend or that they don’t even want to have one. Still, the majority of them will think they are doing something wrong (which is not that far from the truth).
Disclaimer: This is not an article about judging singles, glorifying them, or pitying them. It’s all about stating the facts based on the experiences of other “forever single” men in an effort to help you improve your dating game.
(You can thank me later.)
Do you think that you are doing something wrong or that there is something wrong with all girls?
Since I am a simple person by nature, I hope you get used to what I write exactly what I mean without the sugar coating.
Yes, I am a woman myself, and I don’t think every girl is a perfect material for little girls.
There are a lot of girls out there who are only interested in a man’s financial situation (if you understand my drift) and don’t even bother to get to know you better because whatever interests them is is that you can make them happy.
It goes so far that the girls even dare to ask a guy to pay for their $ 2,500 couch after the second date (this happened to my friend who has also been single for a while now).
Some girls are marked by their past relationships, so they have a hard time opening up to someone new.
Other girls (myself included) have an aversion to generic men who use nerdy pickup lines and pride themselves on their low-effort mindset.
There are also a lot of minimalist, creative, fun, and hardworking girls out there who just don’t have time to date anyone, let alone be in a relationship right now.
Enough about the girls. The point is, not all girls’ personalities and lifestyles necessarily match yours, which is good.
Now let’s talk about you.
Are you happy with your approach to girls (if there were any approaches)? Do you think you are doing something wrong? Or that you could work harder to improve yourself and step up your dating game?
If the answer to the last question is no, you can be sure you are doing something wrong. No matter how good-looking, smart, or fun you are, there is always room for improvement.
Some guys forget that, and that’s how they get stuck in the “never had a girlfriend” realm. Don’t be one of those guys.
No, there is nothing wrong with you if you’ve never had a girlfriend, but if you think that you shouldn’t keep working on yourself, then there is something wrong. with you. This is not only essential in the dating world, but also in general.
Do you keep updating your imaginary list of traits of a perfect girlfriend, but never think about what you have to offer them?
If you ask me, that’s the worst that can happen to a man out there. It doesn’t matter if you are shy or have little self-confidence.
But if you constantly dream of having the perfect girlfriend (by your “perfect standards”), but you are unwilling to work on yourself, then that is truly unfair and unrealistic to say the least.
Yes, almost all men consider themselves to be a great peach, but that’s how you see yourself. Note that each girl also has different standards.
Some girls prefer regular guys with a great sense of humor while others prefer strong men who are full of confidence or a combination of the two.
No, you shouldn’t lower your standards just because you’re single, but you also shouldn’t be too picky or let unrealistic expectations rule your love life.
Be yourself. Be the best you can be every day. Don’t stall and think that you are perfect in every aspect of your life because none of us are.