As two cardinal signs, Cancer and Libra go after what they want in very different ways. Cancer feels out new people emotionally, and may not sense a safe harbor with airy Libra.
The vivacious and/or charming Libra comes alive with an admirer. Libra builds trust through the give and take, starting with light conversation.
But keep in mind, the Moonchild is aloof at first, and very emotionally self-protective. The first few dates could be awkward, though Libra knows how to put others at ease. The friction could go either way — with extreme irritation or with edgy love tension. Much depends on the other harmonies in the birth chart.
Cancer in Love feels easily “rejected,” and goes into retreat mode.
Libra in Love wants 24-7 togetherness and is watchful for reactions and attitudes.
Submarine and Hovercraft (Guess Which Is Which)
Libra’s initial love strategy is to be talkative and observing, and Cancer may find this too risky. The Moonchild might feel they’re being pressed to share more than is comfortable. Cancers take EVERYTHING personally, while Libra’s are simply floating ideas out there. Libra wants a call and response kind of relationship but often feels that the insight gold he or she gives sinks to the bottom with a lost-at-sea Cancer.
Libra finds Cancer a muddled thinker, too tossed about by their emotions. Libra thrives with a lively give and take in conversation. But something can be missing for the Crab — the Libra sense of detachment raises alarms because Cancer can’t sense the feeling currents there. Cancer is sending messages through waves, and a sonar is needed to get the full meaning.
If they take a chance on love, Libra is a priceless sounding board for Cancer. Libra’s detachment, in loving hands, can help Cancer see beyond their own experience. Both have much to offer the other if trust can be built to overcome basic differences here.
But both sense someone substantial, and perhaps the real thing. Libra seeks partnership, and Cancer aims to create a secure home — if there’s timing, a commitment between them ensues.
What bonds them is a shared desire for a harmonious home life. Libra’s fixation on the relationship eases the insecurities of the Crab. This is an affectionate pair, focused on fulfilling the needs of the other.
They both shy away from conflict, and this could lead to repressed anger with the potential to be destructive. It’s key here to trust each other enough to be truthful, even if it temporarily upturns the apple cart. The other issue is socializing — Libra may want to hit the town, while Cancer is happiest at home or with a few close friends. But Cancer and Libra don’t mind making compromises that enhance the relationship, and this ups the chances for an enduring life together.
Upside: Homebody and home beautifier; enjoy entertaining; a wide circle of friends and family; driven by relationships.
Downside: Homebody and social butterfly; A thinker and a feeler; passive aggressive tendencies; high drama.
The Libra dark side is inauthenticity when you never know where you really stand.
If a Cancer-style depression sets in, it’s like a storm system that causes the Crab to go into survival mode.
Element and Quality: Cardinal Water (Cancer) and Cardinal Air (Libra)