Can women and men be “just friends”? Is it possible to have a girlfriend or boyfriend without ultimately developing romantic feelings for them?
Here’s something interesting, almost all of my romantic relationships started with this famous saying, “Oh, we’re just friends.”
I clearly remember other people asking me about this guy I spent so much time with. Whenever someone asked me if we were together, I immediately laughed sarcastically.
I somehow felt offended by others who asked me such questions because I couldn’t imagine being in a romantic relationship with him – my best friend.
In fact, I was scared of myself because I didn’t even know these feelings existed in me until then.
I never dreamed of falling in love with my best friend (I repeated this phrase once too often in my head).
I was not only angry with myself but the whole universe for not giving us the chance to be “just friends” with people of the opposite sex.
But then again, I still have other guy friends that I haven’t yet fallen in love with “.” I’m guessing the keyword here is the word YET (or maybe not).
Is it possible for a man and a woman to be “just friends” without ultimately falling in love with each other?
Since this is a complex question and there is no right or wrong answer, I will just express my personal opinion in the hope that it will help you come up with an answer or a hypothesis. for yourself.
My personal opinion is that men and women can be “just friends”, but there’s a good chance that at some point they will fall in love with each other.
It is said that men and women are from Mars and Venus respectively. This shot perfectly describes the differences between men and women.
Well, there’s probably a reason we’re so different from each other.
To better understand it, let’s list a few things (read: gender stereotypes) that characterize both men and women:
- Unlike men, women like to talk a lot.
- Unlike women, men have difficulty expressing their feelings.
- Unlike men, women are more sensitive.
- Unlike women, men love to brag and show off their strength and masculinity.
If we take a close look at the list above, we can draw some logical conclusions. For example, women like spending time with men because they don’t talk much, which means they’ll listen to them.
Or men like to spend time with women because they are more sensitive, which helps them to open up and be vulnerable. You see, the reason we’re so different is that we’re meant to complement each other.
Both men and women offer something that the other sex doesn’t. So, yes, it is not only possible to be “just friends” with the opposite sex, but it is necessary.
Every girl should have a male best friend and vice versa.
By surrounding ourselves with different types of people and people of the opposite sex, we learn new perspectives, understand how the opposite sex works – we evolve.
Yet these differences can also draw us on a deeper level to the opposite sex.
You know everything about each other, you talk about your fears, your dreams, you have a long list of jokes inside, and you feel like the only person who really understands you.
But you are still “just friends” with them. Now the question is: for how long?
At some point, you might find yourself re-reading their lyrics before you fall asleep, listening to their favorite song on repeat, and fantasizing about being more than “just friends.”
At some point, you might start looking for signs that your friend is in love with you (or your girlfriend) while convincing yourself that you haven’t developed romantic feelings for them.
Maybe he or she loves you more than a friend but is too afraid to admit it. Maybe you both feel the same way, but neither of you are brave enough to admit it or talk about it.
You don’t want to ruin your friendship because of something more meaningful that you might have in the future. Do I have to repeat the previous sentence?
Let me tell you one thing. Friendship is one of the most powerful relationships of all.
Everything stems from friendship. The greatest relationships started with two people “just friends,” which leads us to another hypothesis:
Sometimes being “just friends” is just a bridge to something bigger and bigger than ourselves.
Yes, men and women can be “just friends”, but they can also be more than that. Not all friendships have to turn into something more meaningful (romantic), which is perfectly normal.
But sometimes the reason you were “just friends” is because you were meant to grow up and fall in love. The point is, people waste too much time thinking and defining things.
Why can’t we do both? Why should people of the opposite sex be categorized as “just friends” or as lovers?
When we stop thinking about it and embrace all the possible outcomes of a friendship (or the lack of it), we will stop forcing that unnecessary categorization and unpopular or popular opinion.
I am aware that in saying this I am directly criticizing my own story, but maybe that was my intention after all; to make an assumption in the title and then prove how it can be wrong.