Have you just found out that your partner has had an extramarital affair? Guess you’re on a real emotional roller coaster right now, but are you also aware that you have to face them sooner or later?
Here are 5 questions to ask your cheating spouse that will help you understand their reasons.
You’re in a really tough spot here, and I can’t even imagine how much that hurts. It’s not just another one of those occasional “hard times” that all married couples go through.
It is something that can end your marriage for good.
For most of us, marriage isn’t just a piece of paper. It is something sacred, and it is simply a vow to God that we will love, respect, and cherish that person for the rest of our lives.
Sadly, some don’t think the same, and they just don’t feel bad if they break this sacred vow and hurt their loved one.
Of course, we are all human beings, and sometimes we all have weak times in life when we are unable to think clearly.
At such times, we are all prone to making bad decisions and making bad choices.
The bottom line is that we all make mistakes and deserve a second chance. However, before you confront your spouse, you need to rethink your marriage and deal with your feelings in peace.
The good news is that your marriage can be saved even after such a betrayal. Surviving infidelity is emotionally draining.
Restoring trust is very difficult, but if both partners are willing to put in the effort, it is possible to move forward and leave all the evil behind.
Top 5 Questions to Ask Your Cheating Spouse
Now you probably want to face your cheating partner, but you don’t know how to do it and what should you even ask them, right?
These 5 questions to ask your unfaithful spouse below will help you face them and learn more about the case.
1. Did you think of me even for a second?
As I said before, sometimes we all make decisions that we are not so proud of.
However, before every decision we make, we need to think about its consequences and how it can affect the people we love and care for.
If your partner has been cheating on you for a while, it’s a sign that he didn’t care about your feelings.
Maybe they did, but they just thought that you would never find out about their affair and that what you don’t know can’t hurt you.
2. Did you feel guilty at all?
If your partner is showing signs of remorse, it is a clear sign that he still loves you and that he just made a huge mistake that he will regret for the rest of his life.
On the other hand, if you don’t see any signs of remorse, it shows that your spouse doesn’t care about you at all.
They also don’t care about the future of your marriage and they will probably cheat on you again sooner or later.
3. Are you sorry for cheating or sorry for getting caught?
When I started compiling this list of 5 questions to ask your cheating spouse, this question was the first that came to my mind.
Unfortunately, some cheaters don’t feel sorry for their actions. They just feel sorry for not being careful enough and getting caught in the end.
If this is the case with your spouse, then this probably isn’t the first time he’s cheated on you, and it sure won’t be the last. Obviously they don’t really like you.
4. What made you have an affair?
Ask your spouse what he was missing in your marriage that caused him to have an emotional affair with another person.
One of the most common reasons people cheat is because they are missing something in their current relationship and trying to find it by getting involved in another emotional affair.
However, regardless of your partner’s answer to this question, don’t blame yourself for their betrayal. They should come see you and tell you what is bothering them and what they are missing about your marriage.
5. Do you have romantic feelings for this person?
If this was just a mistake, your partner shouldn’t have had romantic feelings for the other person.
However, if they say that they started to have feelings for that third person, or even worse if they started to fall in love, that would mean that your marriage is over.
The only thing you can do is come to terms with the fact that your relationship is over and you need to move on with your life with or without your spouse.